Sometimes life can be a little bit like a traffic jam, you are on the road you want to be on but you’re just not really getting anywhere, progress is slow, you’re getting frustrated and fed up that you just can’t get to where you want to be. But what can you do, you are stuck, you have no other option but to carry on in this direction, because that will lead you to where you want to be.
The question is, are you really on the right road for you at this moment? Or are you just trying too hard persevering in this way?
I was giving this a lot of thought today, as I was sat in one of the worst traffic jams I had encountered for a long time, I had moved a matter of car lengths in the previous half an hour and no prospect of getting home any time soon. So I had a choice, I either sat there steaming, in a car which was beginning to steam with children who were most definitely steaming or I could grab an opportunity to go and deal with this in a different way.
Even though, there was a better, more straight forward option, initially I chose to ignore that, we were right next to a supermarket and several out of town restaurants, but I decided to try and beat the jam and try a different way, and guess what hundreds of other cars had the same thought!
So the only options that I had were to sit in the car or go and have something to eat, my heart sank at the extra expense, but what other option did I have? I was frustrated that now, not only was I not going where I wanted to go, but it was going to cost me!
The children were obviously delighted as we pulled up outside their favourite restaurant usually confined for birthdays and to my surprise it wasn’t that expensive. As I relaxed into it I realised that I had actually been given a gift, this was the last day of the holidays and I got to spend it with the best people I know. What I had thought was going to be completely the wrong turning, had in fact turned out to be the best direction I had taken.
You might be thinking, well this has nothing to do with life, but when I reflect on the paths I have taken, some I have stayed on because it was a decision I had made, even though they were the traffic jam. I’ve then tried a different route that led to the same destination but it still felt the same, I was still stuck. The only time I have found the right way is when I’ve followed the one path that felt right even though in many ways I could easily talk myself out of it ~ a bit like going out for dinner when it’s no ones birthday. But it was only when I did start to follow it the pieces start to fall into place and life started to feel better.
So the next time that you feel you are in a traffic jam, have a look around for that unusual opportunity that may present itself, you may be surprised, it may just turn out to be the best path of all!