I’m just so fed up, everyone seems to have a great life, but I’m just fed up with mine, I’m fed up with my job, my family, my friends, it’s always the same old thing every day, the only time I’m happy is when I’m on holiday, but money is tight so I can’t see that happening for a while. My GP says I’m not depressed so I’m just stuck now, I’m just fed up feeling like this.
Sometimes the more we say something the more we feel it. Have you ever felt better by saying ‘I’m fed up’, ‘I’m tired’, ‘I’m stressed’? Probably not! So often we have a moment when we feel like it, but because we continue to repeat it, it turns into hours, days, weeks, months of just feeling the same ~ because we are telling ourselves that is how we are feeling!
So the first step is to change the record, and describe moments of time accurately because there will be times when you don’t feel like this, but you just don’t recognised it, because they don’t fit into your belief that you’re fed up!
I appreciate that to change how you think can be really tough, and may even seem totally impossible, so it’s important to just take little steps. Break the day into sections ~ morning, afternoon and evening, and at the end of each section, ask yourself ~ what did I enjoy? What was the best bit? They don’t have to be huge exciting things, they could be things that perhaps before would have gone unnoticed! Then write it down, you can choose an app on your phone ~ or even a nice book, because this is going to be your Feel Good journal. Congratulate yourself on enjoying those things and just take a moment to remember them. It’s amazing when you look back over a week or even a month, just how many things you have enjoyed and how different it makes you feel, it makes you realise, you don’t feel like this all the time and there are things that happen in your life which are pretty good!
When you start doing this you’ll be surprised at how you will start to look for things to include, so grab this opportunity to do something a little different! It doesn’t have to be an expensive gesture, it could be a walk in the park, visiting a shop you’ve wanted to go to for a while, having a coffee somewhere different, reading a book, seeing a friend. Have a think about those little things you would like to do, even make a list of them and start to make them happen! Each time you do something on the list give it a big tick!
Sometimes we think life just happens, that other people just are happy, they just have a great life, but it doesn’t, we have to work at it, we have to make it happen! We have to choose to want to be and do something different, put things in place so that things we want to happen happen!
So from today, go out live your life and make it happen and stop telling yourself you’re fed up!