I think it is so easy to feel demotivated at this time of year, it’s cold, wet, dark, miserable ~ just saying those words makes you feel even less like getting up and doing stuff, especially stuff that you don’t particularly want to do, but feel you should be doing!
So how can we motivate ourselves? Regain that get up and go that we have during the summer months?
Here are my top tips to get you going and keep going!
Use what I call the ‘sliding doors’ technique? Do you remember that film? It had Gwyneth Paltrow in it, it focussed on two parallel universes based on whether or not she catches a train. This technique is based on that idea, so you’d really like to go for a run, but it’s raining and it’s cold, ask yourself how are you going to feel after you’ve been for that run? Exhilarated, pretty chuffed with yourself, and compare it to how you will feel if you don’t? Disappointed in yourself, fed up that you’re not keeping to your keep fit plan? How do you use these two feelings to motivate yourself? Focus on that positive feeling of how you will feel when you have done whatever it is you want to do, keep that firmly in mind, if you struggle, think about the negative feeling and how you simply don’t want to feel like that.
My second tip, is don’t put things of! This is really important at this time of year, we feel like we have less time, the days are shorter, it’s darker, we want to be at home, we don’t want to be running errands, trudging round shops or be at work longer than we have to be. So be super efficient, before you put something down ask yourself ‘actually can I deal with this now?’ Remember if you put if off, it will still be there and you’ll have other things you need to do.
This follows on from number 2! Make a list! Unless you have the brains of Einstein, life is very busy, things get forgotten, lists help with that! You may use paper or one of the fantastic list apps that are available, I’m a great lover of lists, because when you are feeling de~motivated, you often don’t give yourself credit for what you have achieved, if you have a list, it’s right there with, hopefully, lots of things ticked off!
Watch your language! Yes, my Mum used to say to me to! But how we speak to ourselves is so important, remember what we have said in the past, you are always right, so if you tell yourself you are de~motivated, fed up, miserable, you are more likely to feel like that. Also, think about words such as ‘should’ ‘ought’ ‘need’ words like this put a lot of pressure on ourselves, ask yourself, do you ‘need’ to do something?, ‘ought’ you do it? Why do you? Often it is because we would ‘like’ to ~ just by changing one word, it makes whatever that task seem less stressful!
Always have a reward! Whenever you do something that you’ve been putting off, something you don’t enjoy doing, think about rewarding yourself when you do! It could be with something as simple as a nice coffee, but something that makes you feel good. This way when you are trying to motivate yourself to do it, it becomes part of that motivation ~ when I’ve done that (thing I’ve been putting off) I’ll go and do/have this.
It may be that the weather has changed but we can decide whether it affects us or not and hopefully this will really help you do that and give you some much needed get up and go!
Of course these are my tried and tested but you may have some too! Feel free to share them with me either via my Facebook page or website!
love Andrea x