Sounds familiar? …. ‘Nothing ever seems to go right for me, I think about the day I’ve had and nothing good has happened, quite often things go wrong, they may not be massive things, but I get to the end of the day and I just feel thoroughly fed up. I’m just really tired of feeling like this. There must be a better way to be!
I really don’t think you are alone with this one, it may be a colleague at work, another parent in the playground or just when you open Facebook and read people’s statuses there are a lot of people out there that are having bad days or are there?
There’s a very well known glasses advert where people can’t see things or hug a stranger thinking that it is their partner ~ they can’t see what is in front of them because they have the wrong glasses on, well life is a little bit like that too.
Imagine for a moment that you have two pair of glasses, a positive pair and a negative pair and you can use them to view your day. Now imagine that you can view your day like a panoramic picture, you can see everything that has happened throughout your day, right from the moment you wake up, but you can only see your day when wearing one of the pairs of glasses.
First you put on your negative glasses these only show you what has gone wrong, everything else is blacked out, you can’t see anything good that happened in your day. You need to take these off pretty quick, they don’t make you feel good at all!
Now put on your positive glasses, these will only show you what has gone right, the positive stuff, the happy stuff. There isn’t anything I hear you say, nothing ever good happens! I challenge you to look again! These glasses are super strength! Start with the small things, what really happened today, use the glasses to really look for it! It might be that someone gave up their seat for you on the train, or that there wasn’t a traffic jam this morning, a colleague may have made you a coffee or your child gave you a hug. There is positive stuff there ~ and remember you have your positive glasses on, you can only see the positive stuff.
When you’ve done this, it’s important to remember that you are looking at the same picture, just with quite literally a different pair of eyes!
In life it is so easy to get caught up in a negative way of thinking, seeing life through a negative pair of glasses and we need to challenge ourselves not to do it! Go get yourself a different pair of glasses!! At the end of the day or even when you describe your day to someone, edit out the negative rubbish, only report the positive ~ isn’t that more important, the good stuff? You will then find over time that the negative, irritating stuff, just isn’t that important anymore, because you aren’t giving it that importance, you are focusing on the good stuff that happens. Surely, this is a better way to live?