Sometimes I feel like I’m not really doing anything with my life, I have some ideas of what I’d like to do, I’d like to get fitter, go out more, but I just can’t be bothered, I come home from work and just slump in front of the TV, play on my tablet. I just wish I could be motivated. …Sound familiar???
If there is something that you want to do or achieve a good idea is to give yourself some space to think about how you are going to go about doing it, or if you’re not sure how you want to choose to spend your time, but you know you want to do something different with it, again, having some space gives you an opportunity to clear your head. So get off the hamster wheel, go for a walk, have a coffee in a different cafe ~ change your environment so that you won’t be reminded of how you usually feel, so that you can have a fresh perspective to allow yourself to make some fresh decisions.
Now you may need to book this in your diary, to make sure that you do this! If you are struggling to motivate yourself to do it, maybe ask yourself what your older self would say to you? If you could jump into the future and meet yourself in 10 years time ~ what would s/he say to you? Probably ‘just get on with it, you really want to do this, so work out how you can!’ or ‘I really wish you’d sorted this out because look at me now!’.
When you go for your ‘thinking date’ make sure that you have a notebook, or somewhere where you can jot down your plan of action and think about what you are going to do, how you are going to do it and when you would like to do it. It may also be a good idea to think about your ‘energy drains’, the things that when you do them your reaction is one of lack of motivation, it may be when you watch the TV, pick up your tablet, sit in a certain seat, it could be anything that doesn’t help motivate you, that makes you feel like you just can’t be bothered to do the thing you want to do. These are the triggers that you will need to avoid, so think about how you would like to avoid them, maybe not turn on the TV straight away when you get home from work, but decide to watch a particular programme when you’ve done the thing you’ve set out to do! Maybe think about as well what does motivate you, is there a reward you could give yourself or do you work better with a deadline, if so give yourself one (and mean it!).
Approaching it in this way, allows you to look at your situation with a pair of fresh eyes and writing it down enables you to remind yourself when you get back into your home environment of how you want to be and avoid being tempted to repeat your old patterns of behaviour. Remember, life is full of choices, so this is your opportunity to choose what to do!