I love the saying when one door closes another door opens and when I look back over my life it’s certainly been true that I have been very blessed with the opportunities that have presented themselves to me. You may think that I, or others that you know, are just incredibly lucky or that we must have been in the right place at the right time, however it may surprise you to know that we are all surrounded by opportunities to change our lives, it’s just often we either don’t see them or we don’t take them.
I find this subject really fascinating, because of course I come across a lot of people who want to change their lives in some way, from losing weight to stopping smoking, to combating a fear to creating confidence or even taking their business or career to the next level. Often they will say the same thing to me ‘I’ve tried everything, nothing works, I’m just stuck’, they usually also have an example of someone in their lives or circle for whom it has been easy, which has left them feeling deflated and as though they have no options left to them (apart from seeing me!). So why is it life seems easier for some than for others, and how can we make our lives more opportunistic?
Surprisingly it may be easier than you may think and it starts with recognising or acknowledging whether we have become a ‘yes but’ person. As I said we are surrounded by opportunities, but how many times do you say ‘yes but’ to them and then come up with a reason why it won’t work or that it’s not for you or perhaps it’s worked for someone else and therefore it won’t work for you! In effect we close the door before we’ve even looked through it!
None of us know what the future holds yet we believe we are very good at trying to work it out; largely based on our past experience and that of the experience of others. Whilst we may believe that it can be of some use, often it’s not much use at all (unless it is to do with safety!) because we can’t possibly know with any degree of certainty what is going to happen because it hasn’t happened yet! We simply create a fearful outcome that we believe to be true.
It’s this desire to know the outcome that really holds us back, obviously whatever step we take we want it to be a positive one, we want it to be the right one for us. How do we know that it is before we’ve even taken it? My view has always been that if a step feels right to me, even if it makes no logical sense in my head, then it is the right step. This may seem risky to you or even foolhardy, but I have learnt that In life there is no failure, no pass or fail, no gold star if I get it right. Whichever door I go through will lead me to the next door and on the way I will undoubtedly have an experience that will shape and colour my life in a positive way. So in many ways, whilst it may not be obvious, I can walk through that door with the confidence that I do know the outcome with a good degree of certainty.