Last Friday was my first event of the ‘new term’ an introductory session for business owners and professionals sharing the principles behind their own potential, however, like all events I needed to tell people about it!
What I found interesting was the response to some email messages that I put out, now I’m not a lover of emails, I prefer social media, so I don’t do that many and I only email those who have requested that I do so (as per GDPR!), but I also understand that life is busy and often we miss things, especially emails that we actually want to see, so I tend to send more than one just in case! Almost within minutes of one such reminder message, I received two responses, one ticking me off for emailing again when she wasn’t interested and how frustrating she had found it and one thanking me for emailing her again, because she had wanted to come and it had prompted her to find get in touch to find out more.
Now we all know about perspective, how some see that a glass is half empty whereas another will view it as a glass half full, but this made me wonder further about where that comes from, why do sometimes we view our glass as half empty, and sometimes as half full, and why do some people find things frustrating whilst others feel grateful or have no feeling about it at all?
It’s a little like when you are stuck at traffic lights, it’s Monday morning and everything seems to be going wrong, you sit there and those lights are just making you so frustrated, it’s like they are conspiring against you. However, a couple of days later you are at the same lights, and you don’t even notice that they are red, or that you are stopped in traffic, you find yourself singing along to the radio, enjoying the space in your morning.
How can that be? Surely if red traffic lights were stressful, emails frustrating or glasses half empty, they would always be so, everyone would find it that way, and it would be that way all of the time? Well we know that that isn’t the case – which gives us an interesting insight into where our experience is really coming from as opposed to where we think it is coming from.
So often in life we get sucked into the illusion that our thinking creates for us, we believe that our experience is coming from outside of us, that it is the red lights, the screaming kids, the annoying boss who is causing our discomfort. It’s such an easy misunderstanding to fall under, and one that we all do from time to time, no matter often we see it for what it really is. When the reality is, that our experience is always only ever coming from within us, from our thinking about whatever it is, whether it be the red light, the half empty glass or even the frustrating email or an annoying boss or friend – because none of those things can cause the feelings within us, because if they did they would only ever be able to cause that one feeling and that one feeling only, when as we know we can have a whole range of feelings and reactions to exactly the same thing at different times!
As I see it, this all leaves us in a very exciting position, because if that is the case, it is open for each and every one of us to create whatever reality that we want in any given moment, all we have to do is be open and curious enough to explore the different ways in which we can experience things and choose the thoughts to create it. It’s like in any given moment we’re given our own personal blank canvas ready to create whatever reality we want on it simply with our thinking.
FREEDOM OF MIND + INSIGHT + ACTION = YOUR SUCCESS