Do you bottle it in your business? So you come up with a great idea, you do some planning, start the ball rolling – maybe it’s an event or a meeting with someone you could collaborate with.
The date gets closer, and you start getting doubts, you start to worry it won’t turn out as you’d planned, you start to see pitfalls, or maybe the take up isn’t as you thought it would be, you may doubt your own abilities or think that you’re simply not good enough.
You get cold feet. You want out. So you do that. You pull the plug. Cancel the event, make some plausible excuse, you may even have to refund. You are relieved but also disappointed too because you thought it would work and yet again, it hasn’t and more importantly your business hasn’t moved forward.
I get it, in fact this used to be me! When I first started I’d get cold feet just like this, and wriggle out of things that stretched me and my business. In many ways it’s part of the journey and when we notice it we can understand it.
I was reminded of this recently when someone did it to me, we’d made an arranged to meet and at the last minute they cancelled; there was just something in the way they delivered the reason why our meeting wasn’t going ahead that didn’t sit right so I gently explored it and sure enough like poking a hole in a jumper it began to unravel.
She’d completely gone up in her head about it. What was I going to think of her, did she have the experience, was she going to be able to do it, it just went on. A complete scenario created entirely of thought and none of it true, I felt so much for her because I knew exactly what was going on, so I spent some time grounding her and working it through – we made another date and on that time had a great conversation – none of what she thought would happen did.
But if she’d believed it – she would have missed that opportunity. However now she’s seen it, it’s a whole different ball game!
Now I know this isn’t going to get lots of ‘that’s me’ posts because it’s not something you might like to admit, but we don’t have to, we just need to be honest with ourselves and be open to explore the possibility that our thinking isn’t necessarily as true as it seems so that we do take the opportunities that our insights present us.
Because who knows what might happen when we do!
FREEDOM OF MIND + INSIGHT + ACTION = SUCCESS