This weekend I spent a lovely day with 10 other business women on a retreat that I was running, it was a very relaxed and informal affair, an opportunity if you like to take some time out of our normal busy lifes and reflect upon the principles that I share to enable us to reach our potential and achieve life balance.
It made me realise how infrequently we allow ourselves to do this, the opportunity to simple stop and take time out and it was remarked, frequently, throughout the day how lovely it was simply to slow down and get off the hamster wheel for a change.
As I’ve thought about this more it seems to me that for many, life is one perpetual to do list, or simply just to ‘be doing’, dashing from task to task, juggling work, kids, home, dogs, and umpteen other things as well, filling every single moment of time up with ‘doings’ and now of course with Christmas around the corner, there will be even more ‘doings’ to squeeze in our already crowded days.
The Dalia Lama very famously said ‘we are human beings not human doings’ and this made me wonder how can we find more time to be ‘beings’ when we are already pushed for time and find ourselves with even more to do?
I started to reflect on when it was that I felt more productive, I’m sure you’re the same, there are some days when I can get loads done and have a really productive day and other times when I’m simply not, now I’m not talking about those days when stuff happens, like kids off school, or you get an urgent email or call that throws you off track, I’m talking about when you just have a normal day, but you just don’t get as much stuff done.
I’ve also noticed that on those days, I feel like I have too much to do and not enough time, I feel like I am a human ‘doing’. Now I know that through the work that I do that my thoughts create that experience, and digging a little deeper it didn’t take me too long to work out that the thoughts that I was having were one’s like ‘I’ve got so much to do’, ‘I’ll never get this all done’, ‘I’ve got to get this done’ ‘I don’t have time’. The last one in particular created more urgency than all of them put together, making me feel rushed and under pressure and it is usually combined with thoughts racing through my head about what I have to do, like a audio description of my to do list (‘I’ve got this, and this, and this…) I’m sure you get the picture.
Like with all the other thoughts that we have, there’s very little we can do to stop them from coming in in the first place, however, just because they are there doesn’t mean I have to take notice of them. What I have found is that when those types of thoughts come flooding in, if I allow them to float on past, just like a black cloud in an otherwise blue sky, without judgement or comment, pretty soon some better ones will take their place, better quality thoughts if you like, that create a better experience. When this happens, I find, that I go back to that state where I can get more done, achieve more, which gives me more time and generally feel happier all around.
FREEDOM OF MIND+INSIGHT+ACTION = YOUR SUCCESS.