As promised last year, this week I am repeating my epic road trip and returning back up to Inverness for Belladrum festival, however, this time has a bit of a twist as I’m planning to do the UK’s longest zip wire on the way up!
However, as I was packing, I was reflecting how strange it was to be planning what I was wearing, what we would be doing, what we would need etc for the next 7 days, as for the most part our lives are now quite responsive to the moment and I could feel feelings of frustration, some might call it stress as I was doing so.
It made me think about how a lot of our stress is created on a day to day basis, stressful thinking that simply gets in the way of our enjoyment of the moment that we have.
I was wondering how many times we ‘plan’ in our head how we believe things are supposed to be, the detail of how things are supposed to turn out, what is supposed to happen and how. We then make plans based on the plans, which I’m sure you maybe thinking – well that’s just sensible, but think for a moment, there is no way of knowing exactly how things are going to turn out, as we can’t see into the future let alone have any control over it at all.
What we then do, is when our ‘plan’ doesn’t happen in the way we expect it too, we become frustrated, stressed or we may even declare that things ‘never work out for us’ because we are comparing our reality with what our thinking has created and is telling us what should have happened, that isn’t happening because our reality is instead!
But of course, our thinking never knew what was going to happen anyway – what we have compared our lives with, we have constructed, we’ve made that up – which means that we have created a stress that never needed to be there in the first place!
Now you might be thinking – but we still have to plan, like I’ve had to plan what to wear, what supplies we might need, whether it might rain (that is probably a given I know!) and that is true, but our ‘planning’ of the detail isn’t my main focus, I don’t have any idea how this week is going to turn out – but I do know that I would love my priority to be that it’s going to be an amazing experience for me and my girls (the boys are staying at home!) For me, it doesn’t matter if one of us decides that the zip wire isn’t for us, or if the tent blows away and we end up in a hotel or squished into someone else’s teepee, because I know that the experience we have is the experience that we are meant to have, it’s the experience that is right for us at this time in our lives, and I don’t know what that experience is going to be – that’s the most exciting part! So this week, instead of planning your week, be curious as to how it pans out and just see how much that ‘stress’ falls away.
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